Reliability is the hallmark of an adult.
Whether we’re thinking of friends, colleagues, bosses, employees or family members- we’ll always favor those that we know we can count on.
The ones who do what they say they’re going to do, every time, are the people who we respect the most.
When someone is unreliable, they lose esteem and status. We may forgive them, but each time they flake out on us, we take a mental note to not put too much stock in them.
The same goes with the commitments that we make to ourselves.
If I tell myself that I’m going to get up at 4AM to workout, and I sleep in until 6- what’s the big deal? I didn’t let anyone down.
Well, the feedback I gave myself is to not take my own word too seriously; it's unlikely that I'll follow through.
Part of growing up is learning to say “No” to things you won’t be able to come through on- freeing you up to stay absolutely consistent coming through on what you do commit to.
Even if you commit to less, having a 100% follow through rate builds a positive feedback loop.
Committing to 2 workouts per week and hitting every single one for 8 weeks is FAR superior to committing to 3 workouts per week and missing 1 every week.
In the end, the same amount of work was done, but the narrative from the first scenario sends a subconscious message that we were successful, we followed through, we did what we said we were going to do. This is the foundation of a strong relationship, with others and with ourself.